When it comes to parenting everyone has their own beliefs, practices, or rules if you will. Depending on what you read and consume as it pertains to media and education on the subject of parenting their are a number of “Rules“. A number of these rules are opinions or experience based, not scientific facts. And a majority of society decides to live by them. Well I am not in that category.
The rules I choose to parent my son by are based on my own experiences growing up and what would help him in the future.
I have more than one rule, but there is one that is more important than all of them.
What is it?
The Number One Rule In Parenting Is Do Not Compare Your Children To Others
Why is that important?
Each kid is different.
What do you mean?
- They all walk, talk, run, spell, read when they’re ready to. They all develop at different paces.
Which means if you have 2 kids and one walked at 12 months and the other walked at 18 months that is perfectly normal. Don’t compare the 2 kids. Or worse compare them to your friend’s kids.
That’s a death sentence.
Meaning you’ll constantly feel that your kid is behind because so and so’s kid whose the same age can do things your kid cannot yet.
So, what do you start doing?
You start to feel something is wrong with little Timmy and forcing little Timmy to do those same things even though he is not ready.
As a result little Timmy will not want to do those things and he will resist. So, you keep pushing and pushing saying well Mrs. Smith’s kid whose your age can do that, why can’t you?
Timmy will then feel insecure, inadequate and pretty much shut down.
You tell me how that’s going to help Timmy down the road, let alone you as a parent?
As hard as it might be for you, don’t compare your kids to others.
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